A man has revealed his frustration after his girlfriend kept relying on his good nature to provide her with his jacket and a pair of shoes whenever they went out for a date.
The 21-year-old, believed to be from the US, took to Reddit to explain his girlfriend would often forget her jacket during dates – and said the habit had become so regular, he felt she was doing it on purpose.
Sharing a post on the Am I the A****** thread he wrote that he is a ‘very chivalrous person’.
He explained: ‘Recently, I have noticed she had picked up a habit of intentionally leaving her jacket behind and asking for mine, and not packing ballet flats when we go out. Because of this, I always give her my jacket and shoes when we go out, so I am cold and bare footed.’
He said he felt she had started to leave her jacket and shoes at home ‘on purpose’, while others agreed – with some even suggesting he dump her over the offence.
A man, believed to be from the US, has become frustrated after his girlfriend kept relying on his good nature to provide her with his jacket and a pair of shoes whenever they went out on the town (stock image)
Sharing the post, he wrote: ‘I (21m) have a girlfriend (25f). We’ve been together for 9 months and the relationship is great.
‘I’m a very chivalrous person, opening doors, walking by the road, giving her my jacket when she’s cold, taking her out on dates and such.’
He said he would even take his shoes off to give them to her when her feet are sore from high heels.
He continued: ‘I would have been carrying her instead, but I have back issues and putting any form of pressure on my back is not advised.
‘I asked why she stopped bringing those along and she said she can’t find her ballet flats and she keeps on forgetting her jacket.
‘To avoid this happening again, I bought her a new pair of flats and kept them in my car.’
He continued: ‘It has been raining the past few days so the weather has been colder than usual.
‘Two days ago we went on a date again, and before we left, I reminded her several times to pick up a jacket in case it starts raining.
‘Just as we were about to leave, I asked her one more time to pick a jacket and she said she had it in the car.
‘Fast forward to after our date, we were taking a walk when she said her heels were hurting her feet and she was feeling cold so she wanted my jacket and shoes.
‘Mind you it rained a bit while we were on our date so the grass was wet and muddy.
‘I told her to wait for me on a bench so I quickly grab her shoes and jacket from the car.
‘She was hesitant and insisted she wanted mine, but I told her that hers was in the car so I’ll just grab it so we can both be comfortable.
‘Turns out she had no jacket in the car. I was obviously annoyed at this point, so I called her to come to the car and that we’re going home. She was mad at me and said that I was petty for ending a date because of a common jacket.
‘I told her that wasn’t the issue, that it was the fact that she had lied about picking up a jacket.
‘Yes, I would’ve have been frustrated if it was a mistake again, but when I realised she did it in purpose, I refused to give in.’
Others admitted they were stunned by the argument, with one commenting: ‘There’s a reason she’s dating a 21-year old, and I doubt it’s your 10” personality’.
Meanwhile another argued age did not pose a problem: ‘She’s 25, not 50. Are we really going to blame this on a 4 year age gap and not just on main character syndrome?’
The user added: ‘She gets a thrill out of him being willing to be uncomfortable for her sake.
‘He definitely needs to dump her, but that would be true if she were 19 or 21, also’.
One Redditor chimed in: ‘NTA you specifically reminded her more than once. She is an adult’.
Another quipped: ‘Debatable [that she is an adult]’, while a different user brazenly called his partner out: ‘She’s selfish, you’re not. You deserve better’.
The original poster was flooded with support, although some employed a tough love approach, saying: ‘Being a doormat for another is not a sign of a healthy relationship’.
Another Redditor firmly expressed their support, writing: ‘Seriously don’t put yourself in that position.
‘I’ve heard of being nice once in a while by offering a jacket, but expecting you to walk in socks or barefoot is seriously not cool. Does she want you to have warty feet?
‘She needs to act mature and take care of her own needs. Next thing you know you’ll be living together and she’ll deem herself not to ever cook or do any cleaning’.
Another commented: ‘She needs to invest in comfortable shoes. Also the chivalry thing is so a century ago’.
They continued: ‘Find someone you can treat as an equal partner, not someone who needs to be “taken care of”, you might be happier’.
Although not everyone was impressed by the 21-year-old’s passiveness. A Redditor admitted: ‘It’s hard to respect someone who makes themselves so subservient’.
Another weighed in on the debate: ‘If she was raised properly she wouldn’t expect someone to literally go barefoot for her that’s ridiculous.
‘And him actually doing it is complete doormat behaviour’.